Large Labia Project

Everything has beauty,
but not everyone sees it: Confucius


This blog is all about large labia, and mostly to do with large labia minora. This is a body-positive blog that aims to show that large labia are normal and beautiful. It provides support for those who feel insecure, self-conscious, victimised or vilified about their large labia. This blog is inclusive, and all people with labia are welcome, regardless race, age, sexual preference or gender. Submissions are encouraged, but photos showing nudity are only allowed from people 18+ please.


NOTE: This blog shows photos depicting detailed genital nudity in a non-sexual setting, and contains written content with adult themes.


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Dear Emma,
First off - I think it is amazing what you are doing here. I’m 23 and I wish that there had been something like this site I could have turned to when my body started to change during puberty.
In high school, I felt ugly when one of my labia minora started to get longer and darker than the other - so much so that I would tug and pull at the other one to make it appear more even. During my first pap smear with my family physician, I waited for my doctor to remark at how unusual my labia were. When my doctor didn’t say anything, I timidly asked her to check again to make sure everything looked ‘normal’ and was thoroughly confused when she said everything looked fine - convinced she was partially blind. 
I’m still self-conscious about my labia, but it’s getting better. I have a loving boyfriend who tells me I’m beautiful, however his lack of experience with ladies’ nether-regions (I was his first) has sparked insecurities with me and how straight-forward my vulva is to navigate. I live with two fabulously sex-positive roommates (we have “naked Thursdays”) however despite their great attitudes I sometimes find myself with neat-and-tidy-labia envy.
Your website gives me confidence that the more time and love I give my vulva, the more I will learn to appreciate it. I’m looking forward to trying out your self vulva-oogling challenge!
Thank you!!
Oh wow, you are so beautiful. And normal. Nobody says anything bad, because there’s nothing bad to say. It would be like criticizing a rose for having petals. Your boyfriend is so lucky. You know, I actually take a bit of offence at the whole “neat and tidy” thing. It implies that your vulva is messy. Again: rose, petals. How is this possibly a mess? Sigh. I hope being here will give you the self-esteem boost you need to get that sort of crazy thinking out of your head, so you can just enjoy the beautiful gift that you’ve been given :)
Thanks for being brave and sharing here today.
Please do try that challenge, and see if it helps you. I expect you to report back! :)
Emmaxo

Dear Emma,

First off - I think it is amazing what you are doing here. I’m 23 and I wish that there had been something like this site I could have turned to when my body started to change during puberty.

In high school, I felt ugly when one of my labia minora started to get longer and darker than the other - so much so that I would tug and pull at the other one to make it appear more even. During my first pap smear with my family physician, I waited for my doctor to remark at how unusual my labia were. When my doctor didn’t say anything, I timidly asked her to check again to make sure everything looked ‘normal’ and was thoroughly confused when she said everything looked fine - convinced she was partially blind. 

I’m still self-conscious about my labia, but it’s getting better. I have a loving boyfriend who tells me I’m beautiful, however his lack of experience with ladies’ nether-regions (I was his first) has sparked insecurities with me and how straight-forward my vulva is to navigate. I live with two fabulously sex-positive roommates (we have “naked Thursdays”) however despite their great attitudes I sometimes find myself with neat-and-tidy-labia envy.

Your website gives me confidence that the more time and love I give my vulva, the more I will learn to appreciate it. I’m looking forward to trying out your self vulva-oogling challenge!

Thank you!!


Oh wow, you are so beautiful. And normal. Nobody says anything bad, because there’s nothing bad to say. It would be like criticizing a rose for having petals. Your boyfriend is so lucky. You know, I actually take a bit of offence at the whole “neat and tidy” thing. It implies that your vulva is messy. Again: rose, petals. How is this possibly a mess? Sigh. I hope being here will give you the self-esteem boost you need to get that sort of crazy thinking out of your head, so you can just enjoy the beautiful gift that you’ve been given :)

Thanks for being brave and sharing here today.

Please do try that challenge, and see if it helps you. I expect you to report back! :)

Emma
xo

Submission: “This is me down there. I’m 23 and from Scandinavia and I have never talked to anybody about these things.

Most days I hate how I look, some days it’s better, but in general I am not satisfied. Just like many other girls with big labias, I really would like to have those little, attractive lips. Mine is just one big curly mess.

I don’t like it when boys want to go down on me, especially if the boy is someone I care about. Somehow I am afraid that the look of my vagina will disappoint him or that he compares it with prettier vaginas.

I have an ex boyfriend who once commentated on my big lips, and said: “what matters is not how it looks, it’s what it can do” :) Still, the ‘it’s not how it looks’ made me feel insecure, because if he thought it was pretty he could easily tell me that. But I guess he was trying to be kind.

Probably I’m just having the same thoughts as many other girls with big labias. When I clear my head I can see that my worries are just one big waste of energy and happiness. Because thinking about it makes me feel sad, insecure, ugly, shy…

I don’t want to go for any surgery or something - I have thought about it a lot, but I am too afraid. Therefore I really want to feel more content about the way things are and how I look. I’m uploading my picture as a part of that process :)

Email Submission: “Hi Emma, I just turned 24 and am recently out of a relationship. When I was with my boyfriend, he made me feel beautiful, but now that I am single and thinking about sleeping with other people, all my insecurities have regrettably resurfaced. Now when I look at my vulva, it seems like my inner labia have gotten larger. The clean shaved photo is from a year ago and the hairy one is recent. Is it possible for your labia to stretch out if you have lots of sex? I also hate that my mons pubis is so large. When I was younger and in ballet, my classmates used to make fun of it for looking like a “package”. It seems like it protrudes so much more than most women’s. And lastly, I have a skin tag near my anus that is rather unsightly as well. The dermatologist says I shouldn’t remove it but I hate the way it looks. I feel like my whole genital region is a mess… and I thought I had moved past these issues…”


It’s such a shame that you’e no longer feeling as confident about yourself as you once did. I suppose that’s easy enough to slip back into old thought patterns and negativity, especially depending on how the break-up went. Take some assurance from me that you’re looking great. You have really beautiful, long lovely labia that any man would be honoured and thrilled to get to know.

You can’t get longer labia from just having sex. If it involves lots of severe stretching or pulling as part of foreplay, and I mean deliberate enlargement, using clamps, hanging weights etc, then not would be possible. But just from masturbation, fingering or penetrative sex with a penis or toy, you can’t get longer lips.Genital size isn’t a function of the amount that it’s used.

I’m sorry that you were bullied about your mons. Kids and teens are notorious for teasing and bullying, and it’s such a shame that their childish stupidity has left a lasting scar on your psyche. As with most parts of the body the mons pubis comes in different sizes. It would depend on the shape of your pelvis, and the amount of cushioning fat that sits in a layer above the pubic bone. Your mons is normal.

I’d listen to your dermatologist. Skin tags are pretty common, as I’m sure you’ve been told. Do you spend a lot of time looking at your anus (nothing wrong with that and I’d recommend it actually)? It’s just a bit of skin, what’s the problem and why is it so unsightly? It looks fine to me. Seriously I wouldn’t worry about it.

Emma

Email Submission: “When I was 7 I had a bicycle mishap, I hit my vulva on the bike bar and split some of the skin, I saw a doctor who recommended surgery but I was never able to go through with it, I cannot imagine the pain. I wasn’t worried then but when I became to really discover my body I hated my vulva, the inner labia is long and hangs low because of the past injury.
With time, I’ve come to terms with my vulva and even started to like it , I remember the first time my fiancé took my panties of he said “it’s gorgeous” to this day, he has absolutely no idea how much that meant to me”

Email Submission: “When I was 7 I had a bicycle mishap, I hit my vulva on the bike bar and split some of the skin, I saw a doctor who recommended surgery but I was never able to go through with it, I cannot imagine the pain. I wasn’t worried then but when I became to really discover my body I hated my vulva, the inner labia is long and hangs low because of the past injury.

With time, I’ve come to terms with my vulva and even started to like it , I remember the first time my fiancé took my panties of he said “it’s gorgeous” to this day, he has absolutely no idea how much that meant to me”

Email Submission: “Hey Emma, I’ve been super self conscious lately because this guy told me from pics I sent him that my vagina looked dirty and I need to wash it more. I wash once a day sometimes twice and I scrub and maintain my shit down south. I was wondering if there is a proper way to do it? And if mine looks unclean bc he said it did :/”


My first advice is to not send any more photos to, or frankly even talk to that guy again, because he’s not only rude, he’s also an ignorant arsehole. Seriously, who says that sort of thing to people?

Is this what you sent him? Frankly there is nothing wrong with your vulva. When it comes to cleaning yourself, your vulva and especially your vagina, are self-cleaning organs. You should never use anything to clean inside your vagina, ever, as it will upset the chemical balance inside there. It’s dangerous, and you could get an infection, like thrush or worse. For example, studies show that douching at least once a month makes people 40% more likely to have a vaginal infection than those who never douche. Douches are not only unnecessary, they disrupt the bacterial balance of the vagina and the self-cleaning cycle. Research has also linked douching to an increased risk of HIV and other STIs as well as cervical cancer. So just use water, basically, on the outside.

And please watch this awesome video by sex-educator Laci Green on keeping your pussy clean. It’s short, funny and to the point.

It’s perfectly normal to have mucous discharge every day through your cycle, and of course this will often dry and leave that whitish crusty streak in your undies. That’s just your body doing what it’s supposed to be doing. Everyone has it. There’s nothing wrong with it. In your vagina, it’s mucous coming from inside your uterus as you go through various stages of your menstrual cycle, as well as any lubricating fluids from your vagina, from everyday lubrication as well as when you’re sexually aroused. It’s your body doing its thing, and pretty amazing quiet frankly.

I don’t know what that guy would have been referring to, but I’m pretty damn sure it’s just him showing his complete ignorance of the female body.

Emma

Email Submission: “It’s my first time to post a picture of my labia. I’m not confident with it. I don’t even know if it is small or large. I am so ashamed that the right part of my inner labia is larger and hangs down than the left. I hope it is normal. I have a lot of questions regarding reproductive health but our country is not open with this kind of topic.”


You’re very normal and the size of your labia is fine. It doesn’t matter if your labia are large or small - they are normal. Asymmetry is actually the norm - the majority of people with labia have one longer or differently shaped than the other. You have nothing to worry or be ashamed about.

Emma

Email Submission: “Hey, Emma! I’m 25, and am lucky to have rarely been insecure about my labia. When I was little I used to tuck them upwards to create that porn-star look and thought that’s what they did too, lol. When I got older and realized my labia were just large. I guess I still didn’t care. I’ve always been incredibly fascinated by my body and how it changes and colors itself over time. I get sad whenever I see posts from people (often men) complaining about large labia or claiming they stretch out because of sex and whatnot. Miseducation about the female anatomy and female pleasure is horrible. I appreciate places like this that serve as a safe haven for women with bodies that aren’t porn-star expectation. While I’m pretty comfortable with my sagging C-cups and large labia, I understand many girls in my position aren’t and I blame society. I’m proud to be contribute to taking a stand against it.”

Hi Emma! First off I wanna say I love your site! I am 23 and I’m engaged to my beautiful girlfriend. Is it normal for your labia to be darker than your skin tone? I’m a nice tan color but my labia to me seems really dark and it makes me very insecure to have my fiancé down there with the lights on being able to see all that there is lol. Is there such a thing as vagina bleaching like anal bleaching?


Yes, it is perfectly normal for the labia minora to be darker than the rest of your skin. In fact that describes 78% of people with labia. And 30% have labia that are a colour other than pink, e.g. tones of brown, purple and black. So, you’re totally fine and do not need to be insecure at all. Your girlfriend will adore your labia.

There is such a thing as bleaching, but pardon me saying but anyone would have to be mentally deficient to seriously consider it!

Hi Emma, I’m 27, I love my labia. I used to have an issue with them but no longer. Even when I watch porn now I prefer it when the chicks have longer labia. They are so erotic and interesting. It’s strange that so many women have such an issue with gorgeous soft skin! Thank you!

Email Submission: “Age 45, and I still have insecurities. I had a boyfriend comment on how dark I was. I was 29. I brought it to his attention how dark my skin was so naturally my labia were going to be darker. I also brought to his attention that his penis was darker than his fair skin.

I am 45 now. I have had many lovers and know that men, like women, vary in skin tones in their penises and scrotums. I just wanted to send my photos so women and men can see and hopefully know what’s normal and not make the same mistake due to lack of experience.

Thank you Emma.”

I have big insecurities about my vagina. I love the Large Labia Project but still after 3 years of being unsure about the appearance of my vagina do not have the confidence to enjoy myself sexually. I feel like my lips are too big and there’s something wrong with my clit! I can’t enjoy masturbation because I’m too hung up on trying to climax and I just can’t. It’s so upsetting and I feel so abnormal. But I thought posting a photo would be a good start. Does anyone have any tips on being able to climax? It’s something I’ve googled over and over and still can’t seem to do :(


Thanks for being brave and writing. let me reassure you that there’s nothing wrong with your vulva. Your lips aren’t too big - there is no such thing! You’re attractive, sexy and normal.

Arousal and orgasm is not so much a function of your clitoris - though it’s the entry point for sexual sensation. It’s actually all in your mind. The more worked up and anxious you are about trying to orgasm, and thinking there’s something wrong when you can’t, the less likely it is that you’ll come. It’s easy to say relax, I know, but it’s probably the best thing you can do.

Unfortunately there is a percentage of women who are never able to achieve orgasm (anorgasmic), which is terribly terribly sad. There are probably myriad factors at play - some physiological like the distance between the clitoris and the vaginal opening (the greater the distance the higher the chances of being anorgasmic), as well as psychological.

You may benefit from talking to your doctor first and then a psychologist or a sex therapist. Also visit www.dodsonandross.com which among other things helps women learn how to orgasm through masturbation.

I wish you the very best, and I hope you are able to get there soon.

Emma
xo

Hey Emma, I am 25 year old girl from Wisconsin. I found your site after read Cosmo so I had to come check it out. I noticed that my vulva is smaller than most of the girls on this site. Over the years the one thing that most guys referred to my vulva is as small. I really had no idea that there was such a variety of vulva’s until I came on your site. I just don’t know that my vulva is small and I was curious to what you and your followers thought? 

P.S I was reading that another girl that posted was thinking about getting a VCH (Vertical Clitoris Hood Piercing) I just wanted to say I love mine and it really adds to the sensitivity of my clitoris. The pain is intense to say the least but it only last for a split second. I felt the pain was well worth it. The hardest part was convincing myself to spread my legs exposing my vulva in front of a male piercer, but he was very professional about it. I would recommend it! 

Anonymous Submission:Dear Emma, when I first submitted a photo of my vulva, over a year ago now, I loathed my labia to the extent that I fantasised about cutting them off (because labiaplasty was an impossibility). I was so disgusted by my vulva that I hated masturbating. I hated my vulva so much, yet I was unable to voice my anxieties to anyone: not my best friend, not my mother, not my doctor.

I can’t remember how I came upon your wonderful blog. My first submission was the first time I had ever shown my vulva to anyone, and I remember crying when I read your response to my submission. A great weight was lifted from my shoulders that day. Slowly, I came to appreciate the unique beauty of my vulva. This process of  acceptance has revolutionised the way I relate to my body, to my sexuality. I now embrace my sensuality.

And I can only thank you, Emma, for your kindness, your perceptiveness, and openness. You are truly a beautiful soul.

xx (26 years old)”


I am so pleased to hear from you again, especially with such good news. You deserve to be happy, and to love your vulva and body. Loving yourself is the key to being able to give yourself to another, emotionally and sexually, without inhibition. I’m really proud that your self-esteem has grown so strongly.I cannot be more pleased and happy for you. You just put the biggest smile on my face. Thanks for your kind words. You are so very beautiful. <3

Emma

Email Submission: “I’m 20 and I feel kinda bad about my labia. One of them is quite big, the other one’s huge. I’m still a virgin, but I’ve been fingered once. It didn’t feel nice how he literally had to search for the way ‘in’.”


Thanks for being brave and contributing. Let me reassure you that your labia are exquisitely beautiful. Large labia, and asymmetric labia, like yours, are perfectly normal. In fact 63% of the female population have labia of different sizes. That’s about 1.7 Billion females over 15 years of age. The average labia width is 3.2cm and 68% of females have labia between 0.4cm and 6cm wide. You are far from alone.

Did the guy who fingered you have anything negative to say? I bet he didn’t. I bet he loved it and practically came in his pants at the touch of your labia :)

My Male Opinions Regarding Female Genital Appearance survey last year proved that the vast majority of guys adore the vast majority of ALL vulva.

The fact is, you are normal and you are stunningly beautiful (OMG the shape of your labia in the second photo is a work of art) and very attractive. You’ve nothing at all to worry about.

Emma

Email Submission: “Hi, I’m a 20 year old girl from The Netherlands and noticed you’re blog on a forum that I visited. Wow you’re great to make this blog because I’m also not happy with my vagina. I would like to share some pics of me.

I don’t know what my relationship for my vulva is. It’s not ugly and it’s not beautiful. I don’t like my vulva. My labia are protruding, and I don’t like it. I’m really curious what other women think of my vulva because I’m not sure what to think of it?