This blog is all about large labia, and mostly to do with large labia minora. This is a body-positive blog that aims to show that large labia are normal and beautiful. It provides support for those who feel insecure, self-conscious, victimised or vilified about their large labia. This blog is inclusive, and all people with labia are welcome, regardless race, age, sexual preference or gender. Submissions are encouraged, but photos showing nudity are only allowed from people 18+ please.
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I know this is off topic, but I’m a virgin with a broken hymen. I’m worried now that whenever I do have sex, a man won’t believe that I am a virgin. Help?!?
Sorry then, I don’t understand what the problem is.
If we take any cultural or religious issues from the dark ages out of the equation, then my question to you is why do you care about whether a man knows if you’re a virgin or not? Why does it matter? Do you care because of your attitudes to sex and your body? Do you think that your happiness or self-worth needs to somehow be dependent on pleasing a man? Will he think any differently about you? If he does, well fuck him, and not in the good way! That offends me as a feminist (ie someone who believes in equality).
If virginity is really important to you, how will you know if he’s a virgin? Does it matter? You would just need to take his word for it, as he would be expected to take yours.
And what is virginity anyway? If you masturbate are you still a virgin? What if you masturbate but without fingering yourself? Or what if you do stick something in your vagina? What happens if you enjoy something inserted anally? What if you give a guy a blow job, and you let him finger you? Or if he doesn’t finger you? Are you still a virgin? What if you give him head but don’t let him come in your mouth? What if he does and you swallow it? What if he goes down on you? If you have anal sex but not vaginal sex are you still a virgin?
What is virginity? Is it any sexual contact? It’s such a personal decision about what constitutes virginity. And at the end of the day it doesn’t matter one iota. It doesn’t define who you are. It doesn’t change you as a person. It doesn’t make you good or bad. There’s so much myth and mysticism and baggage about virginity and honestly it’s all a load of bullshit. Don’t stress about it. There are far better things to expend your energy on.
Since I’m too much of a pussy (pun intended) to upload a picture, I feel the need to share my story after stumbling upon this website- which I’m very thankful I did.
I was pretty young when I first noticed how large my labia minora was, it hung down way futher than the majora, and I had a fat clitorial hood to go along with it. I was absolutely disgusted, self-conscious, and I thought there was something wrong with me. I never spoke to anyone about it, I wasn’t close with my mom or my sisters and I was too shy and embarrassed to even think of telling them. So I kept it to myself and it slowly ate away at me, worsening as I got older.
In high school I was deathly afraid of any guy coming near me or my lady bits so I shunned any guy that took a liking to me. I was too afraid of them being disappointed and judgmental once they saw the real me. It scared the sh*t out of me. I developed severe anxiety, self-loathing and it was one of the major reasons why I became depressed. I’ve honestly thought about killing myself hundreds of times, most of which were because of what I thought was an abnormal va-jay-jay. All I could think about was never getting married and dying alone, because no guy would ever love the real me.
This continued on through high school and prior to leaving for my freshman year of college, I had my first gyno appointment to get birth control. My heart raced as I sat in the room and she told me to undress, she was going to be the first person to ever see my bits and she had a front row seat!! Before even putting my feet up on the posts I quickly blurted out “uhhhh I think I have a problem”. I then went on to explain to her what had been the source of my angst for so many years and then actually fighting up the courage to actually show her. She, being the sweetheart that she was, immediately told me I was crazy to ever think such things and that I was perfectly normal. I then asked her opinion on a labiaplasty (yea, I’ve been researching it for awhile now). She quickly turned the idea down, saying I was silly for thinking that I needed one and that it was only for girls who’s labia was a few inches long and made every day life uncomfortable. She then reinstated that I was perfectly normal and had nothing to worry about. Despite her kind words, I wasn’t convinced and I still hated it.
I went through first year of college just as I did in HS, always stopping at second base. I hated being a virgin in college, I was so jealous of all the girls that could carelessly hook up with all this cute college boys and I couldn’t even bear to let them go below the belt. Attending a small college didn’t help, you knew everyone and everyone knew you, I had nightmares of messing around with a guy and then him spreading the news of my unsightly bits around campus. I was tired of being a virgin in college, I thought it was so embarrassing and I just wanted to get rid of it. One night at a party, I got pretty drunk and decided to just go for it. Although the guy made no comments about my bits, he never spoke to me again afterwards and I thought it was because he was disgusted in what he had seen. Needless to say, it didn’t boost my confidence.
In the beginning of soph year I brought a guy I’ve been crushing on back to my room (he was one of the biggest a-holes on campus but for some reason I liked him). We messed around for a little bit and he finally put his hand down my pants and fingered me for a grand total of 3 seconds. I knew he felt my large labia and I couldn’t help but to think that’s why he stopped. After that night, he never spoke to me again and I came to the same conclusion as the last guy.
I gave up on trying to get with guys, my depression only worsened and my self confidence was shot to hell. This brought on a slight eating disorder- if I couldn’t have the perfect vagina, I had to make up for it with a perfect body.
It wasn’t until the following summer (this summer) that I decided to try again. I ended up sleeping with one of my closer friends a few times, only as a FWB type deal. I was terrified at first, and he could clearly tell (thank you, anxiety) and told me to shut up and relax. He never mentioned anything about my bits and I was seriously relieved, and the fact that we had sex a few more times helped the confidence a little. A few weeks later I ended up hooking up with this other kid, he wanted to have sex but he was unable due to a recent surgery close to his groin and it was still healing. He told me he would make it up to me by going down on me, which I quickly shot down. Having sex was bad enough, having someone get up close and personal with it was just not happening. Sorry dude. But he insisted and he went ahead and did his thing, which was extremely uncomfortable for me, mind you. He never made a bad comment about it and proceeded to do the same thing the next time we hung out. This also made me feel a tiny bit (more puns… KILLIN’ it) better since he wasn’t practicing the flight response like the other male species I’ve come in contact with.
Although my past two experiences with guys weren’t horrible, I still have zero self confidence about myself and I’m still in the midst of being treated for my depression/anxiety. I was feeling a little down this evening and I was researching more about it, desperately looking for others like me and helpful advice. I couldn’t tell ya how, but I ended up finding your tumblr and I’m so incredibly happy that I did. It was really comforting to actually SEE that I was fairly normal when it came to my lady bits. Although I’m still not confident and happy with my body, I’m beginning to accept that this is the way I am and that I shouldn’t have hate myself for something I had no control over. I only hope that this will get better with time, but I know that I’m going to continue to be self conscious for at least a little while. Baby steps I guess.
I just want all you ladies that are posting on here to know- YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL AND PERFECT JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. Keep your head up, you’re far from alone and I feel for you guys 1000000%. I should practice taking my own advice, but always remember that you are you, and you should be happy with the body you were blessed with.. it is the only thing you have that’s truly yours. Cherish it. Love it. Accept it. <3
Do you belong to a culture or religion where this poses a problem?
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I thought that more guys need to know the different vulvas that exist. So for some reason I thought it would be a good idea to start sexting anonymously on snapchat. There was a drastic difference in the response to my vulva by the guys in different continents. Everyone in Europe and South American (UK and Italy especially) found it beautiful and sexy. But I got a few remarks from American, Australian and Canadians like “god you must be a slut, why else would it look like that?”
It seems to me in places that think of sex as something dirty and not to talk about it, are brainwashed by porn because they are told to wait by everyone to actually have sex. In places like Italy, the UK and South America sex is normal and apart of their culture and they see it everyday with in sculptures.
I was talking to a boy from Argentina who you would think would be naive and blunt, was actually the sweetest. I told him that at 19 I’ve only slept with 1 guy and he was shocked. I asked him how many girls he’s slept with and he said “I’m not sure but at least 10.” I said “wow that’s a lot. You’ve seen a lot.” He responded with “yes. At 15 it’s normal here. Why is everyone so uptight in the US? Have some fun!” He later said that my vulva was a work of art, gods beautiful creation. I’ve heard similar things from guys from the UK and Italy and it has everything to do with the culture.
Hello, I’m 15 and I have large labia and I was thinking about having a surgery to reduce them until I saw your blog. It is really amazing.
The only problem is that guys don’t know about large labias, and when they find out they’re disgusted. There’s this porn star named Christy Mack who has large labia and the comments on her are awful. Some says she should have a surgery to reduce them, someone even said “Yes I agree that roast beef dangling between her legs is disgusting.” I know I should keep them the way they are, but men seem to find it repulsive, I need some advice.
Ok, let me ask you this, why do you care what a bunch of idiot wankers who comment on porn sites think? Would you take their advice about anything else in your life?
You also need to realise that those guys are in the minority. Look at this post which shows that 21 out of 30 of the porn actresses nominated for (and both of the winners) the 2013 AVN Awards for Female Performer of the Year and Best New Starlet - have larger labia - including Christy Mack! The AVN Awards is the porn industry’s Oscars. For that industry it’s pretty important. Clearly having large labia in porn is desirable, and those “roast beef” guys, quite frankly, can go fuck each other. Their opinion doesn’t count anywhere.
Well that’s really interesting. If you’re over 18 send me a photo to firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll give you my non-expert opinion, It’s probably nothing to be concerned about, and most likely part of your vaginal corona, but as with any skin changes or growths that seem to have suddenly appeared it’s a good idea to get them checked out by a doctor.
There is no particular way that a virgin’s hymen (vaginal corona) should look. They all look different. It’s a flexible membrane which can be formed around part of the vaginal opening, in a crescent shape, or maybe even form a ring around the entire circumference. Some people have none at all.
Vaginal coronas do not completely cover the vaginal opening (though in rare cases they can which will require a small operation to cut an opening for menses to escape). Vaginal coronas can look pretty much the same all your life. They can erode away through normal (non sexual) daily activity and leave lumpy edges around your vaginal opening. They can stretch during sexual penetration and still look just the way they were. Looking at a vaginal corona is no indication of whether you’re a virgin or not. You can’t tell. That idea is rooted in the dark ages. And if that is the case then there is no way that a “virgin hymen” should look.
And first time sex doesn’t involve breaking hymens, popping cherries and all that crap. If there’s pain and blood it’s because the vagina wasn’t lubricated enough for the penis to slide in and out without causing little tears in the very delicate lining of the vaginal walls.
Here’s more information from a recent post about vaginal coronas.