This blog is all about large labia, and mostly to do with large labia minora. This is a body-positive blog that aims to show that large labia are normal and beautiful. It provides support for those who feel insecure, self-conscious, victimised or vilified about their large labia. This blog is inclusive, and all people with labia are welcome, regardless race, age, sexual preference or gender. Submissions are encouraged, but photos showing nudity are only allowed from people 18+ please.
NOTE: This blog shows photos depicting detailed genital nudity in a non-sexual setting, and contains written content with adult themes.
Honesty and open communication are really important in any caring relationship, so it’s great that you want to talk with him about your feelings. I assume that he hasn’t seen you naked and he hasn’t had sexual contact with your breasts or genitals (I may be wrong there!).
Before thinking about how to tell him, I want you to start thinking about why you feel you need to tell him.
Hopefully you have browsed through some of posts on this site from me and thousands of other people with labia, as well as the many articles and research facts that I’ve published in the Labia Resources page. If you haven’t had a good look around yet, then I urge you to do so. You may soon start to realise that:
(a) you’re not alone in feeling insecure about your labial appearance
(b) large labia are very common and above all, normal.
(c) labia are as unique and individual as people’s faces and there is a huge diversity in their appearance.
(d) there is not “standard” for beauty when it comes to labia and vulva
(e) the vast, huge majority of guys know and appreciate this and find almost every single vulva to be sexually attractive - read Male Opinions Regarding Female Genital Appearance: Survey Results and Male Comments
Similarly if you visit the Large Labia Project’s sister site, www.ourbreasts.tumblr.com you will come to realise it’s the same deal with your areolae. Large or small they are normal, commonplace, desirable and attractive.
Large labia and areolae are just one of the normal variations in our bodies that we all have. They are as normal as differences from person-to-person in foot size, leg length, butts, bellies, eye and hair colour, height, faces etc etc.
Having the need to talk to him is fine, but make sure it’s with the objective of talking about your feelings. It’s NOT because you have anything wrong or abnormal with your body. You don’t. You’re normal. And he’ll know that because I trust he’s seen other female bodies before, either in the flesh or through media like pornography. In spite of what many people mistakenly believe, there is a huge range of natural body shapes, sizes and appearances in porn. I can pretty much guarantee he’s seen all sorts! Talking to him, saying “I feel insecure” as opposed to “I’m abnormal” is the way to go. It’s not like you have to tell him to brace himself because he’s going to see something freakish! And he may be able to very quickly alleviate those fears you hold, when he reassures you that you are juuuuuust fine.
Get yourself in the right head-space first, hopefully after familiarising yourself with everything posted on this site and Our Breasts and beginning to realise that you really are ok. If you still want to talk to him, then pick a time that isn’t “sexual” and when you’re calm and feeling good about yourself. Just tell him that you feel insecure about these parts of your body, and how this affects you in your relationship. It will probably be embarrassing, so be prepared for that. And let the conversation flow. Don’t be surprised though if he wants to see for himself. And it may also give him an opportunity to talk about parts of his body that he’s insecure about.
With luck though you’ll have developed the confidence in your perfectly normal body not to worry about what he’ll think, because you KNOW he will adore every little bit of you. What’s not to love? :)
Hi Emma! First off I wanna say I love your site! I am 23 and I’m engaged to my beautiful girlfriend. Is it normal for your labia to be darker than your skin tone? I’m a nice tan color but my labia to me seems really dark and it makes me very insecure to have my fiancé down there with the lights on being able to see all that there is lol. Is there such a thing as vagina bleaching like anal bleaching?
Yes, it is perfectly normal for the labia minora to be darker than the rest of your skin. In fact that describes 78% of people with labia. And 30% have labia that are a colour other than pink, e.g. tones of brown, purple and black. So, you’re totally fine and do not need to be insecure at all. Your girlfriend will adore your labia.
There is such a thing as bleaching, but pardon me saying but anyone would have to be mentally deficient to seriously consider it!
Lots of people are starting my breasts survey but a high percentage aren’t making it all the way to the end. Is this you? I’m worried that there are technical problems with the survey preventing people from completing it. I know it’s long, but if there’s some other reason that you haven’t been able to complete it, I’d really like to know. Please leave a comment here or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’d really appreciate your feedback.
It really doesn’t matter whether you are large or small. Size is immaterial. But I would suggest that you start to get to know what your vulva, as well as your urethral opening and your anus actually look like. I urge you to read this recent post and take the challenge of spending time just looking and examining these parts of your body. It’s a great first step in removing some of the anxiety you have about them and their normal, essential bodily functions.
It’s really hard, though, to change the way you see your body and your attitudes towards it. Lots of people have hang ups about where they pee and poo, and there’s going to be some deep-seated psychological stuff going on there, way back to your childhood, that I’d need to have a different uni degree to address. It’s best to leave that to a psychologist, and I do recommend that you talk to one, specialising in sexual disorders.
If it’s any comfort, as long as you have good hygiene practices and bathe regularly, then your anus and urethral opening are actually cleaner than your mouth.
I always advise people with problems masturbating and achieving orgasm to visit www.dodsonandross.com, a fantastic site run by two sex-positive women who among other things believe masturbation is the key to positive sexuality - and I agree. What they have to say may help you.
Do you think you’ll visit their site, and also take my challenge in that other post?
Tiny labia, small labia, medium sized labia, and large labia are all normal. There’s a huge range of size variation, from 0 to over 15cm wide. While having no labia isn’t terribly common, you’re far from alone and there’s nothing wrong. It’s not likely that you’ll grow labia minora now, but there’s no problem with that. Enjoy your normal vulva for the amazing part of your body that it is.
What an ignorant arsehole. That’s emotional abuse. Did he have a penis of his own? Surely thinking your normal labia looked something like a dick would suggest that he’s had very little experience with one. Maybe he had penis envy lol. I hope he’s now your ex. You can do much much better.