This blog is all about large labia, and mostly to do with large labia minora. This is a body-positive blog that aims to show that large labia are normal and beautiful. It provides support for those who feel insecure, self-conscious, victimised or vilified about their large labia. This blog is inclusive, and all people with labia are welcome, regardless of race, age, sexual preference or gender. Submissions are encouraged, but photos showing nudity are only allowed from people 18+ please.
NOTE: This blog shows photos depicting detailed genital nudity in a non-sexual setting, and contains written content with adult themes.
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Ok let’s start out with some general info about what happens to vulvas during sexual arousal.
The vulva (clitoris, clitoral hood, labia minora, labia majora) and vagina will generally swell up when you’re turned on. That swelling is due to increased blood flow to the area. The labia majora will become “puffy”. The clitoris has erectile tissue in it, and has an erection as it fills (engorges) with blood, much the same way a penis does (though a penile erection is more noticeable). The labia minora also have a very large blood supply, more than would be required to maintain the labial skin alone. That extra blood supply helps provide blood for the clitoris during its erection. Your whole vulva may go darker in colour or redden. And generally the more sexually excited you are, the more your vulva will swell up. Obviously there are limits though - it won;t swell forever.
When you orgasm that usually acts as a trigger to release the blood supply. The same thing happens to penises after orgasm, and the penile erection then goes away.
When you masturbate there could be a few things affecting how swollen your labia are.
1. Everyone is different and it could just be how your body reacts to sexual arousal. If it doesn’t hurt you or cause discomfort then it’s probably not a problem.
2. If you masturbate but don’t have an orgasm it may be that the blood isn’t able to escape, and so your labia remain swollen. If you don’t orgasm, or haven’t yet worked out how to, then try to masturbate in a way that will get you there. Easier said than done, I know. Maybe visit www.dodsonandross.com for advice and information on masturbation and orgasm.
3. If you masturbate with vigorous rubbing of your labia, or hard vaginal penetration with your fingers or a toy then you may be causing swelling to your labia from this “trauma”, much like if you hurt yourself playing sport.
Regardless of the cause, you can try to bring the swelling down using an ice pack or cold compress placed on your vulva. The cold will help reduce the swelling.
Generally I’d think that two days would warrant a visit to your doctor, but if it’s just how your body naturally reacts, then there’s probably nothing to be done by a doctor. If it continues more than two days, if that’s how long it usually lasts for you, then I would get it checked out. Embarrassing I know, but there’s nothing doctors haven’t encountered before, and to them you’re just another patient. I hope this all helps.
The type of undies you wear, and whether they are comfortable, will be different from person to person. Some people with larger labia for example, find that g-string or thong panties (especially ones with narrow gussets) can be uncomfortable, or even find their labia poke out either side. Some people prefer thongs & g-strings though as they hug the labia more snugly and prevent movement, chafing and discomfort.
The string or thong part of the panties will generally cover the anus, but depending on you body shape it may or may not even touch it. It won’t hurt it though, but whether it feels comfortable or not is entirely up to you.
Your vagina is an internal organ, so your underwear wouldn’t ever hurt it.
My suggestion is, if you’re curious then buy a pair or two and try them out. Carry a pair of your regular panties in your bag, and if the thong feels comfy, great! But if it feels uncomfortable, take it off and go back to the other undies you’ve been wearing.
Thanks for writing. I think that Embarrassing Bodies show is deplorable. I’ve written about that segment before, and this one with a 23 year old who wanted labiaplasty. It’s just tacky, sensationalist, titillating, voyeur TV and it’s really damaging. If you look at some of the comments on their website it’s enough to make you cry.
That’s terrific news! I’m so pleased for you. Thanks for taking the time to write and let me know. I really appreciate it.
I had a dream that you quit blogging because you found a make-your-own-Oreos kit and wouldn’t have time for anything else anymore. It was hilarious, but also kind of a bummer. Keep up the awesome work you do :)
I’m 15 years old and I have a few questions about my labia and this blog. :)
First, I have small what some close minded people would call “picture perfect” labia and I was wondering my labia will continue to change/grow until I have reached my full height or something? Either way I’m cool with it but I’m just wondering.
Second, I check this blog every night and it always makes me so enlightened to see all the beautiful labia here :) And I wanted to ask how you got the idea for your wonderful blogs/what’s the story behind them?
Thanks so much for all the wonderful work you are doing! :)
Hi and thanks for writing and for your kind words.
How much your labia will grow or change is really dependent on where you are in puberty. Chances are that they won’t change much. From what I have read though labia can sometimes continue to grow as you get older. I like your attitude though, that either way it’s cool, and I can guarantee you that your labia and vulva will be beautiful.
Rather than repeat myself I’ve written about why I started the Large Labia Project in my new FAQ - your answer is right at the top of the page. There’s not much of a story around why I started the Our Breasts blog. A contributor to the Large Labia Project suggested I do something similar for breasts. So I did. But two blogs are enough for me :)
If you follow, like or reblog a post from this blog, and you have a pornographic blog name or profile image, or an image of a penis in your blog’s profile pic, or if there are pornographic images when I mouse-over your profile, then I will block you and report you for harassment.
After an intense three hours, the workshop on pornography I have been leading is winding down. The 40 women all work at a center that serves battered women and rape survivors. These are the women on the front lines, the ones who answer the 24-hour hotline and work one-on-one with victims. They counsel women who have just been raped, help women who have been beaten, and nurture children who have been abused. These women have heard and seen it all. No matter how brutal a story might be, they have experienced or heard one even more brutal; there is no way to one-up them on stories of men’s violence. But after three hours of information, analysis, and discussion of the commercial heterosexual pornography industry, many of these women are drained. Sadness hangs over the room.
Near the end of the session, one woman who had been quiet starts to speak. Throughout the workshop she had held herself in tightly, her arms wrapped around herself. She talks for some time, and then apologizes for rambling. There is no need to apologize; she is articulating what many feel. She talks about her own life, about what she has learned in the session and about how it has made her feel, about her anger and sadness.
Finally, she says: “This hurts. It just hurts so much.”
Everyone is quiet as the words sink in. Slowly the conversation restarts, and the women talk more about how they feel, how they will use the information, what it will mean to their work and in their lives. The session ends, but her words hang in the air.
It hurts to know that no matter who you are as a woman you can be reduced to a thing to be penetrated, and that men will buy movies about that, and that in many of those movies your humiliation will be the central theme. It hurts to know that so much of the pornography that men are buying fuses sexual desire with cruelty.
It hurts women, and men like it, and it hurts just to know that.
Even these women, who have found ways to cope with the injuries from male violence in other places, struggle with that pornographic reality. It is one thing to deal with acts, even extremely violent acts. It is another to know the thoughts, ideas, and fantasies that lie behind those acts.
People routinely assume that pornography is such a difficult and divisive issue because it’s about sex. In fact, this culture struggles unsuccessfully with pornography because it is about men’s cruelty to women, and the pleasure men sometimes take in that cruelty. And that is much more difficult for people — men and women — to face.
…This doesn’t mean that all men take sexual pleasure in cruelty. It doesn’t mean that all women reject pornography. There is great individual variation in the human species, but there also are patterns in any society. And when those patterns tell us things about ourselves and the world in which we live that are difficult, we often want to look away.
Mirrors can be dangerous, and pornography is a mirror.
Pornography as a mirror shows us how men see women. Not all men, of course — but the ways in which many men who accept the conventional conception of masculinity see women. It is unsettling to look into that mirror.
A story about that: I am out with two heterosexual women friends. Both are feminists in their 30s, and both are successful in their careers. Both are smart and strong, and both have had trouble finding male partners who aren’t scared by their intelligence and strength. We are talking about men and women, about relationships. As is often the case, I am told that I am too hard on men. The implication is that after so many years of working in the radical feminist critique of the sex industry and sexual violence, I have become jaded, too mired in the dark side of male sexuality. I contend that I am simply trying to be honest. We go back and forth, in a friendly discussion.
Finally, I tell my friends that I can settle this with a description of one website. I say to them: “If you want me to, I will tell you about this site. I won’t tell you if you don’t want to hear this. But if you want me to continue, don’t blame me.” They look at each other; they hesitate. They ask me to explain.
Some months before that someone had forwarded to me an email about a pornography site that the person thought I should take a look at — slutbus.com. It’s a website to sell videos of the slutbus. Here’s the slutbus concept:
A few men who appear to be in their 20s drive around in a minivan with a video camera. They ask women if they want a ride. Once in the van, the women are asked if they would be willing to have sex on camera for money. The women do. When the sex is over, the women get out of the van and one of the men hands the women a wad of bills as payment. Just as she reaches for the money, the van drives off, leaving her on the side of the road looking foolish. There are trailers for 10 videos on the website. All appear to use the same “plot” structure.
In the United States there are men who buy videos with that simple message: Women are for sex. Women can be bought for sex. But in the end, women are not even worth paying for sex. They don’t even deserve to be bought. They just deserve to be fucked, and left on the side of the road, with post-adolescent boys laughing as they drive away — while men at home watch, become erect, masturbate, obtain sexual pleasure, and ejaculate, and then turn off the DVD player and go about their lives. There are other companies that produce similar videos. There’s bangbus.com, which leaves women by the side of the road after sex in the bangbus. And on it goes.
I look at my friends and tell them: “You realize what I just described is relatively tame. There are things far more brutal and humiliating than that, you know.”
We sit quietly, until one of them says, “That wasn’t fair.”
I know that it wasn’t fair. What I had told them was true, and they had asked me to tell them. But it wasn’t fair to push it. If I were them, if I were a woman, I wouldn’t want to know that. Life is difficult enough without knowing things like that, without having to face that one lives in a society in which no matter who you are — as an individual, as a person with hopes and dreams, with strengths and weaknesses — you are something to be fucked and laughed at and left on the side of the road by men. Because you are a woman.
"I’m sorry," I said. "But you asked."
In a society in which so many men are watching so much pornography, this is why we can’t bear to see it for what it is: Pornography forces women to face up to how men see them. And pornography forces men to face up to what we have become. The result is that no one wants to talk about what is in the mirror. Although few admit it, lots of people are afraid of pornography. The liberal/libertarian supporters who celebrate pornography are afraid to look honestly at what it says about our culture. The conservative opponents are afraid that pornography undermines their attempts to keep sex boxed into narrow categories.
Feminist critics are afraid, too — but for different reasons. Feminists are afraid because of what they see in the mirror, because of what pornography tells us about the world in which we live. That fear is justified. It’s a sensible fear that leads many to want to change the culture.
Pornography has become normalized, mainstreamed. The values that drive the slutbus also drive the larger culture. As a New York Times story put it, “Pornography isn’t just for dirty old men anymore.” Well, it never really was just for dirty men, or old men, or dirty old men. But now that fact is out in the open. That same story quotes a magazine writer, who also has written a pornography script: “People just take porn in stride these days. There’s nothing dangerous about sex anymore.” The editorial director of Playboy, who says that his company has “an emphasis on party,” tells potential advertisers: “We’re in the mainstream.”
There never was anything dangerous about sex, of course. The danger isn’t in sex, but in a particular conception of sex in patriarchy. And the way sex is done in pornography is becoming more and more cruel and degrading, at the same time that pornography is becoming more normalized than ever. That’s the paradox.
This essay is excerpted from Robert Jensen’s book, Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity, published by South End Press. (x)